thoughts

I was just reading through our monthly newsletter from Parents of Murdered Children. Here are two good thoughts:

"When we are bereaved we may never live at the top of the mountain again. That's just the way it is. A part of us will forever be sad. But if we let our sadness be more powerful than our happiness, death wins. If we embrace our grief, express the pain, accept it and blend it into our lives, then the joy and happiness of the lives of our children will once again fill us with joy and happiness. Don't let death win; let the life of your child win. Embrace the paradox of grief."Rob Anderson

(on how to help someone through grief) "It is seldom about saying the 'right thing'. It is not our words the grieving and brokenhearted hunger for; it is our acceptance of them as they are now rather than our insistence that they be as they were. It is our sincerity and kindness and patience as they make their way through the darkness on their timetable, not ours. It's